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This article was nominated for deletion on 9 July 2006. The result of the discussion was speedy keep.

Compersion was nominated for deletion. The discussion was closed on 25 February 2014 with a consensus to merge. Its contents were merged into Polyamory. The original page is now a redirect to this page. For the contribution history and old versions of the redirected article, please see its history; for its talk page, see here.

Primary and secondary (polyamory) was nominated for deletion. The discussion was closed on 25 July 2023 with a consensus to merge. Its contents were merged into Polyamory. The original page is now a redirect to this page. For the contribution history and old versions of the redirected article, please see its history; for its talk page, see here.

Text and/or other creative content from this version of List of fictional polyamorous characters was copied or moved into Polyamory with this edit. The former page's history now serves to provide attribution for that content in the latter page, and it must not be deleted as long as the latter page exists.

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@darknessgoth777 would you mind explaining why a navbox which has this page as one of the listed entries should not be on this page so we can achieve a consensus on what to do? And can you do this here, rather than just immediately trying to reinsert your change? thanks in advance. --Licks-rocks (talk) 09:38, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Hi. This is not meant to be offensive at all. Polyamory is not considered a sexuality it's considered type of relationship. Therefore it's not a sexual identity nor is it apart of the LGBT community. LGBT is defined as the community for anyone who is not straight, not cisgender, not allosexual (asexual), and/or not alloromantic (aromantic). DarknessGoth777 (talk) 16:21, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

That doesn't mean it doesn't fall under the LGBTQ umbrella. Not everyone who is poly is queer, but polyamory draws in queer people and is seen as "non-monogamous approach to love and dating" and has appeared at pride parades. So it makes sense to include that navbox. Removing it would be doing a disservice to anyone who reads the polyamory page. Historyday01 (talk) 17:28, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Polyamory has been mistaken as a LGBT identity because it has a flag to represent it similar to how BDSM practices also have flags to represent them. But both are generally not considered part of the community due to the definition of LGBT. DarknessGoth777 (talk) 16:23, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

According to who? Who is saying polyamory isn't "generally not considered part of the community"? Historyday01 (talk) 17:23, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Therefore the flag meant to represent polyamory is not a pride flag because a pride flag is a flag that represents a gender, sexuality, or romantic orientation that is inherently part of the LGBT community. DarknessGoth777 (talk) 16:31, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

See, the main problem with that is that it's explicitly a pride flag. It has been designed and is being used as such. It's explicitly mentioned in the source we cite for the flag. So that, to begin with, is just not true. Polyamory has been part of pride rallies since forever, and as for your other edit, it "not being a sexual identity" depends on whom you ask, see for example this article on the subject. --Licks-rocks (talk) 17:11, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Exactly and it makes sense it has been part of pride rallies. Historyday01 (talk) 17:13, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

Agreed. I STRONGLY oppose removing the Gender and sexual identities navbox from the bottom of the page. darknessgoth777 appears to have a fundamental misunderstanding of the LGBTQ community, which is unfortunate considering previous editing on LGBTQ topics by that user. Historyday01 (talk) 17:23, 22 August 2023 (UTC)[reply]

May 2024 Slate article

I thought this was pertinent, plus it has links to many other sources. I do not have the time to incorporate it into this article at present, but I thought maybe some of you other editors might like do that.

Requarth, Tim (2024-05-05). "Abandon What You Think You Know About Polyamory. There's Data". Slate Magazine. Retrieved 2024-05-07.

Peaceray (talk) 20:53, 7 May 2024 (UTC)[reply]

May 2024 study on compersion

Today I came across a study on compersion:

Flicker, Sharon M.; Sancier-Barbosa, Flavia (2024). "Your Happiness Is My Happiness: Predicting Positive Feelings for a Partner's Consensual Extra-Dyadic Intimate Relations". Archives of Sexual Behavior. 53 (3): 941–958. doi:10.1007/s10508-023-02766-5. ISSN 0004-0002.

That study is behind a paywall, but there is a freely accessible article about it:

Dolan, Eric W. (2024-05-04). "Study identifies key factors boosting compersion in non-monogamous relationships". PsyPost - Psychology News. Retrieved 2024-05-17.

I am at a film festival, so I am a bit busy this month & hoping someone else can attend to this. Peaceray (talk) 22:16, 17 May 2024 (UTC)[reply]

The full text is available through wikipedialibrary.wmflabs.org for those who have access. Search for Feeling Good About Your Partners' Relationships: Compersion in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships & select the PDF Full Text link. Peaceray (talk) 22:24, 17 May 2024 (UTC)[reply]

Exploring Pioneers in Polyamory

I came across this. I am not adding it to the article, but I thought it might be of interest to other editors.

Hagemann, Ian (October 7, 2018). "Exploring Pioneers in Polyamory: alt.polycon Attendance, Current Relationship Status, and Current Identities". Internet Archive. Retrieved 2024-12-30.

Peaceray (talk) 00:39, 30 December 2024 (UTC)[reply]